Experience of a carer

Joel Baraka — Sat, 15 Jun 2024 12:14:32 +0000

Faith is one of our carers. Once you meet her, you’ll know why. It’s not just her 2 years of professional caregiving experience, it’s the way she cares that makes her special. Since everyone who meets Faith becomes a friend, We’re so happy she’s on our Team.

1. Is there anything about your family or background that makes you especially passionate about caring for others?

Absolutely. My younger sister had her first surgery when she was minutes old—she’s had 69 so far. When I was little, I thought all families spent weeks in the hospital. I was always around doctors, nurses, and patients. That was my normal. My great grandmother, who had Alzheimer’s, moved in with my family. Keeping her company was my job. I was so excited when she taught me how to peel potatoes. To this day every time I hold a potato, a Great-grandma smile comes through. Grandma is sick, and we can’t take care of her anymore, they said. I knew it was time. Even at 6 years old.

2. How did you get into being a carer?

When I went into labor prematurely, my labor and delivery nurse Rachel, had the most incredible amount of patience and took such amazing good care of me. She was also pregnant and due the same time as me. My angel daughter didn’t survive, but sometimes I think the reason my baby was with me at all was to show me my direction in life—to be there and care for others as Rachel had for me. Rachel had her baby, and we’re still friends over a decade later. I guess I had two great influences guiding my fate. Maybe losing my baby was in some ways meant to teach me empathy and direct me to help people.

3. What do you love most about being a professional carer?

Sounds cliché, but I enjoy the difference I can make in someone’s life. When families become caregivers they stop being family members. Husbands stop being husbands, wives stop being wives. When I come in and take care of the tasks that nobody wants to do, I let the other person be a spouse or a child again. I get to give family members back to their families. That makes me feel really good.

4. What’s your greatest challenge in this work?

I take it all in stride. My experience takes over most of the time without me thinking about it. Like reflexes. The only thing that I can truly say bothers me is when someone asks a person with Alzheimer’s, Why don’t you understand? Or I just told you this an hour ago. People who aren’t empathetic to another person’s affliction is hard for me to watch.

5. What’s the secret to a great relationship between a carer and a client?

Complete honesty. And that builds mutual respect. Nobody wants someone in their home who is going to be fake. If a Care Pro doesn’t love what they do, the client can feel it. They want someone who can talk truthfully about what is going on and treat them like real people.

6. Will you share with us a rewarding moment you’ve had as a Carer?

Recently, I was working hard to get a bed-bound man clean. It took a good hour. I was really struggling and sweating, and he was uncomfortable. I was talking to him, trying to make him feel at ease, but he didn’t say a word. When I was done, he looked at me and softly said, Thank you. And I remember feeling so good about helping him. Those two words made that all worthwhile. All carers have little moments like that and they feed your soul.

7. What do you like to do outside of work?

Always, always, always at the gym. I run obstacle course races. Knit. Crochet. Spend time with my little girl and my friends. Sleep sometimes.

8. Name one thing about you that might make people say WOW!

Most people don’t know that I am really good with a bow and arrow. They don’t picture me toting around a compound crossbow—but I’m a pretty incredible shot. I go to the range and shoot arrow after arrow. It helps me relax and concentrate. Almost meditative.

9. What do you collect?

Easy. Coffee mugs. I love coffee mugs. When my friends travel they always bring me back one they think I might like. The only rule is you have to have actually been there, not just passing through. I have about 150 so far. Now you know my weakness.

How to build a long distance care team

Joel Baraka — Thu, 16 Mar 2017 08:54:05 +0000

We live in a mobile society, and that means that adult children are not always going to live in close proximity to aging parents. This makes it difficult to ensure their daily needs are addressed, especially if illness or chronic disease strikes. However, it is possible to put together a long-distance care team that will provide for your loved one and give you some peace of mind. Here are some tips on how to assemble a reliable team that will serve the best interests of the senior you love:

1. Ask the senior how you can be most helpful
– What do they need daily?
– What tasks are difficult for them?
– Do they have regular weekly or monthly appointments, such as hair appointments or doctor visits, that they need transportation to and from?

2. Talk to the senior’s GP
– If the senior is willing to give you written permission or you are the health care proxy, ask the GP to update you about the senior’s health. You can also discuss this with your loved one, but often seniors will hide information about their health condition for fear of losing their independence. You need to know exactly what the health impairments are in order to address them appropriately.
– If you do not have permission or are not the health care proxy, the GP cannot, by law, release private medical information to you. However, he or she may be willing to suggest the types of support they think will be most helpful.

3. Talk to friends, family members, and neighbours of your loved one
– Can a schedule of support and help be created?
– Can a neighbour’s child take out the rubbish or walk your loved one’s dog?
– Can a sibling who lives close by take your loved one grocery shopping?
– Can neighbours or family members check in on the senior regularly, especially during extreme hot and cold weather?
– Make sure everyone has all your phone numbers, your email, and other contact information.

4. Rely on local resources
There are many organisations that provide support for elders. You can find the ones in your loved one’s area by checking these sources of information:

– Age UK: Visit the Age UK website for resources and support services available nationwide.
– NHS Choices: Check the NHS website for information on elderly care services in your local area.
– Care Quality Commission (CQC): The CQC website provides ratings and reports on care homes and other elder care services.
– Local Council Website: Visit your local council’s website and search for “elder care”, “senior care”, or “adult social care services.”
– Elderly Accommodation Counsel (EAC): Use the EAC’s HousingCare.org to find suitable housing and care options for older people.
– Home Care Agencies: Certified, professional home care providers can take care of your loved one and keep you updated on their wellbeing.

5. Keep detailed records
– Create a binder in which you can keep notes, medical records, insurance information, calendars, and even printed copies of emails. This will be a great help to you as the care of your loved one becomes more complex.
– Include contact information for all physicians, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, case managers, and specialists, like physical therapists.
– Make copies for all those involved in the support and care of your loved one and keep the records updated.

The NHS also has a webpage dedicated to caregiving. It is a rich source of information that lists numerous books, fact sheets, and information pages on a wide range of issues involved in caregiving. Last week, we published a piece on how to manage the emotional impact of long-distance care – an aspect of caring for your loved one that you don’t want to miss

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